Conceit vs. Confidence
By Stacia Pierce
Confidence is a key quality to your success. When you have a high level of self-confidence, you will approach every situation with a positive, winning attitude. People are drawn to those who exude confidence.
On the other hand, you must be careful that your confidence doesn’t come across as conceit. While having confidence can make you more attractive, being — or seeming — conceited will do the exact opposite. I want to share with you the difference between a confident vs. a conceited woman. Each has qualities that stand out — but only one stands out in a good way. Read the profiles below: Which type do you identify with the most?
When meeting someone new…
A confident woman introduces herself and gives her name while engaging in customary pleasantries. She observes her surroundings and responds accordingly to conversation or activity, blending perfectly into a social gathering while avoiding any unnecessary attention.
A conceited woman is insecure and may come across as aloof and snobbish. She usually avoids eye contact when meeting someone new and will always find a sarcastic or backhanded way to put someone down as an attempt to make herself look good.
A confident woman doesn’t skimp on the primp. Consistent pampering is a hallmark of femininity and womanhood. A confident woman is careful to appreciate the personal sense of refinement from good, professional grooming. She wears her hair in a style that suits her, she keeps her makeup flawless and flattering; not overdone as to draw unwanted attention. She’s dressed to impress and appropriate for all occasions. A confident woman prepares herself in a way that attracts admiration, not astonishment.
A conceited woman overdoes it with her appearance because she doesn’t know where to draw the line between class and chaos. She does too much: too much makeup; too tight or too short dresses; too much exposed skin. She usually subscribes to the “if you got it, flaunt it” attitude and has a complete disregard for appropriateness in social settings.
Topics of conversation…
A confident woman usually can discuss various social topics, because she is well-read and informed on current events. However, she understands that it’s always a good idea to avoid politics and religious beliefs, since those topics can take a turn for the worse.
A conceited woman loves to talk about herself, bragging and name-dropping. She often can’t stand to hear the accomplishments of others. She prefers to interject and direct the conversation back on herself. She best describes herself in reaction to others, trying to one-up them; always seeking to prove she’s the best.
Interaction with others…
A confident woman doesn’t scale back on who or what she does. She is bold about her commitment to service, yet she doesn’t brag or have to prove a point. She knows who she is and her achievements and productivity speak for themselves.
A conceited woman is very condescending, rude and disrespectful to others. She may treat her friends and others like underlings or make remarks about her friends to expose their weaknesses in the presence of others.
A confident woman understands that every “no” gets her closer to a “yes.” She doesn’t dwell on the situation but instead moves onward and upward, knowing her experience will only serve to sharpen her and make her stronger.
A conceited woman usually gets bitter instead of allowing rejection to make her better, because she has a closed-minded view and lacks the ability to consider anyone else’s difference of opinion.
Conceitedness is often rooted in trusting your outer appearance as your best asset. True confidence exudes grace, patience and the ability to shine without arrogance. It’s important as a woman to be confident in your abilities and love yourself. Be assertive and assured that your accomplishments take you further than your look alone.
Stacia Pierce is a life coach, career expert and CEO of Ultimate Lifestyle Enterprises. She has proven her knowledge by writing 21 books, being featured on the Steve Harvey Show, Forbes.com, Redbook.com, ABC News, FOX, NBC and hosting an annual conference, The Women’s Success Conference, which attracts over 5,000 women annually. She was a top winner on Oprah’s OWN Network contest with 7.6 million votes.