Crying at work used to be career suicide, but experts now say weeping can actually help you climb the corporate ladder — as long as it’s done sporadically. The New York Post reports that it’s OK to cry in front of your boss when you care a lot, if others are also upset or if you’re going through a tough time. Save tears for after hours or the bathroom when you’re angry, have been criticized or are tired.
In 2012 at age 33, Talia Goldstein was a successful CEO of a matchmaking start up company. And she had a secret: she was pregnant. In an essay published this month in Fortune magazine, Goldstein shared a journal entry from April of that year. “It’s awful knowing that the second I reveal that I am pregnant, investors will suddenly second guess whether I am capable enough to run a company. So, I am going to hide my pregnancy as long as I can,” Goldstein wrote in her journal. Goldstein told ABC News Monday that she worried investors would not take a pregnant CEO seriously so she covered up. “In one meeting it was 80 degrees outside and I wore a trench coat,” she recalled. “But I thought, better off looking ridiculous than looking pregnant.” In an appearance Monday on Good Morning America, Women for Hire CEO Tory Johnson discussed the case and said it’s OK for pregnant women to conceal their pregnancy
Would you hide your pregnancy from a prospective employer while job-searching? Why or why not? http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/
Getting ahead in your career requires industry knowledge and expertise, experience, a proven track record, being liked by your colleagues and customers, having a good reputation and more. But one of the most common things holding back many people from reaching the success they deserve is the fear of failure.
But etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore http://www.etiquetteexpert.com/ says the fear of failure is more common than we think, but overcoming it is very possible.
Here are her six tips to start the process:
- Focus on growth – The most successful people will tell you they’ve had more failures than successes, but that’s how they became so successful. Don’t berate yourself when you make a mistake. Instead, see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Take that new knowledge and put it to good use. When you make a mistake, reflect, learn, try again and grow.
- Focus on positive self-talk– The things you say to yourself have a significant influence on how you feel and act. When you’re consumed with negative thoughts about your performance, your positive attitude will diminish and be replaced by self-doubt. Practice by keeping a journal and as soon as you catch yourself being negative, write down a positive replacement statement. This takes time to get good at and practice makes perfect.
- Change your approach – Suppose your project doesn’t go as planned the first time around. Don’t give up and walk away. If you hit a roadblock, think through the problem. Could you change your approach? Is the timing off? Take another shot at it and try something different. Sometimes it takes many tries to get it right. The key is to learn from each attempt.
- Ask for help – Next time you make a mistake or feel doubtful about something, ask for help. Sometimes all you need is to bounce a few ideas around with someone you trust. Chances are you know a colleague, friend or mentor who has experienced the exact same situation. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or request a second opinion.
- What’s the worst that can happen? – When you find yourself feeling fearful, map out all the possible outcomes including the worst case scenario. Try not to let your anxiety affect your view of the situation and always have a “plan B” which will reassure you and boost your self-confidence and eliminate the fear of failure.
- Don’t be concerned what other people think – Are you afraid to fail because of what other people might think? Let go of this negative habit and ask yourself, “Who cares what other people think?” Some of the greatest inventions of our time were scoffed at initially, but did it stop those savvy entrepreneurs from pursuing their idea? Pursue your ideas and passions because you want to, and don’t live your life for anybody else.
Jimmy Lee, vice chairman of JP Morgan Chase, died unexpectedly Wednesday at age 62.
In 2001, he turned down a chance to run Blackstone, the giant private equity firm. Lee said turning the job down cost him “billions, literally” but would have meant missing his three kids’ sports games. “Family first, no matter what” became his motto. He spoke often about juggling family and career, saying it was doable if you planned ahead.
You’re career is in transition, either by choice or circumstance. How do you answer the basic, “What do you do?” question without saying, “Uh, nothing right now?” Saying you are volunteering at a non-profit is a common and perfectly acceptable
ATLAS, which stands for Accomplished Top Leaders Advancement Strategy, aims to prepare and position talented women for influential leadership positions. This year, the program includes 16 participants from across the Bank’s business divisions, infrastructure functions and Regional Management.
The ATLAS participants serve as ambassadors with a critical role to the Bank’s focus on leadership and breaking down silos.
The recent program opening included an interactive discussion and dinner, where members of Deutsche Bank’s C-Suite joined participants to discuss leadership and personal accountability as well as execution and delivery for the Bank. Throughout the next 12 months, each woman will be sponsored by a senior executive while receiving tailored training opportunities.
Creating Opportunities for Women
At Deutsche Bank, 42% of the workforce is made up of women – a number that isn’t currently reflected at the senior level but one that they’re actively working to improve upon. The Bank is committed to creating an environment where everyone can thrive – and maximize their potential.
And with programs like ATLAS, Deutsche Bank is leading by example. In 2012, the Bank was recognized with a “Global Award” from Opportunity Now, a campaign for greater gender diversity in business.
Since its initial launch in 2009, over half of past ATLAS participants have moved into more senior roles.
To learn more about life at Deutsche Bank – and to search for available opportunities – please visit db.com/careers